Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

Emily Nagoski


Non-fiction, Popular Science




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(Paperback | ISBN 9789385288739 | 400 pages | September 2015)


An essential exploration of women’s sexuality that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy.

After all the books that have been written about sex, all the blogs and TV shows and radio Q&As, how can it be that we all still have so many questions? The frustrating reality is that we’ve been lied to—not deliberately, it’s no one’s fault, but still. We were told the wrong story.

Come as You Are reveals the true story behind female sexuality, uncovering the little-known science of what makes us tick and, more importantly, how and why. Sex educator Dr Emily Nagoski debunks the common sexual myths that are making women (and some men!) feel inadequate between the sheets.

Underlying almost all of the questions we still have about sex is the common worry: ‘Am I normal?’ This book answers with a resounding Yes! We are all different, but we are all normal—and once we learn this, we can create for ourselves better sex and more profound pleasure than we ever thought possible.


Click here to read an excerpt from the book.


‘Lots of books—and articles and experts—claim to have the keys to transform your sex life. This one actually has it. It isn’t as fast as taking a pill, but it will last a whole lot longer. You will find no hot new bedroom moves—it’s that deeper- level soul stuff. You know, the stuff that actually works.’ —Salon

As a literary work, Nagoski’s book deserves plaudits for the rare achievement of merging pop science and the sexual self-help genre in prose that’s not insufferably twee ... “You are normal!” doesn’t sound much like a battlecry, but in a world keen to sexually homogenise women from the gap of their thighs to the shape of their mons pubis, the sentiment lands like a bomb.'

'Emily Nagoski is worth her weight in TED Talks, and Come as You Are is a master-class in the science of sex.'

'Like a punch to the gut. When I read the passage that made me realise — after all these years — that I was not actually broken, I began to cry ... I wished [Nagoski] was someone who was actively in my life, someone I could reach out to for grounding every time I momentarily forgot the lessons in her book.'

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About the author

Emily Nagoski

Emily Nagoski is a director of Wellness Education and lecturer at Smith College, where she teaches Women’s Sexuality. She has a PhD in Health Behaviour with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a master’s degree (also from IU) in counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health […]

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